Thursday, May 24, 2012

How to Love

"See you had a lot of moments
that didn’t last forever.
Now you in this corner
trying to put it together:
How to love..."

There are so many meanings to the word "love," but many of them lead only to a lack-there-of. In the search of what love really is, many people fall prey to the same mistake that this girl had. She wanted to be accepted, to be loved and know love. But, she thought she could only fill the void of love with the sexual pleasure. The Psychologist, Viktor Frankl, might have said it best: "Love is not interpreted as a mere epiphenomenon [A phenomenon that occurs as the result of a primary phenomenon.] of sexual drives and instincts in the sense of a so-called sublimination. Love is as primary as sex. Normally, sex is a mode of expression for love. Sex is justified, even sanctified, as soon as, but only as long as, it is a vehicle of love. Thus love is not understood as a mere side-effect of sex; rather, sex is a way of expressing the experience of that ultimate togetherness which is called love" (Man's Search for Meaning pg. 112).

There are definitely different types of love: physical love, romantic love, and brotherly love. But, all seem too short. They all really point back to a bigger love, a more-wholesome love. This love they point to can only be the limitless fulfilling love that comes from God. This would be very similar to Pascal's God-shaped vacuum.

Once we find the source of this true love, God, we are able to share that love with others. When we know what love truly is then we can teach others how to love.

" By this we know love, that he laid down his life for us, and we ought to lay down our lives for the brothers. But if anyone has the world's goods and sees his brother in need, yet closes his heart against him, how does God's love abide in him? Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth" 1 John 3:16-18.

"Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love. In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. 12 No one has ever seen God; if we love one another, God abides in us and his love is perfected in us" 1 John 4:7-12.

"See I just want you to know,
That you deserve the best,
You’re beautiful."

Not only do we now know what love is and can share it with one another; God's love makes us worth something. We become Christ's bride and the Father's heirs. We become more than just servants to the world (though we are those too), we are Lords over it.

A boy ran up to his girlfiriend's father-in-law and asked him if he could marry her. The father retorted, "Why do you think you are worthy of my daughter's love?!?" The boy responded, "Sir, I thought that sort of worth was exactly the thing that real love ignored."

They were married six months later, with the father's outstanding approval. Even though we aren't worth anything without Him, God's love makes us worth something to him.

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